Wednesday, July 29, 2009

Power Of Choice

Power of Choice
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"Every person, all the events of your life are there because you have drawn them there. 
 What you choose to do with them is up to you."  
-Richard Bach


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Thursday, July 23, 2009

IN FEAR? Take the Focus Off You

In Fear? Take the Focus off You
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When we get involved in doing something new, many times we become unsure about our abilities and what we are doing; we doubt, criticize, judge, whatever it may be. We are unsure about whether or not we are performing well. "Are we doing it right?" "What are others going to think?" etc, etc. I know this happens to me, and not just with something new either. It could be something that I have done for a while. But, there are certain days that this fear overwhelms me.

What I found to be most effective is to take the focus off myself, and instead, focus my complete attention on who and what I am serving. Whether it is the words on the paper I am writing on, the kayak and oars I am trying to maneuver in the water, or the people I am speaking to on the podium. In a way, it is the same instructions for acting. Take the focus off yourself and place it on the other person or thing you are wanting to influence.

It is that simple. Do you want to get out of the fear mode? Focus your attention on whatever you are doing, and how you can serve the other person or thing to the best of your ability, rather than 'how you are doing it' and 'if you doing it right'? It is a positive habit we need to learn to instill within us.

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Monday, July 20, 2009

We Must First Set Our Heart Right

We Must First Set Our Heart Right
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"To put the world right in order, we must first put the nation in order; to put the nation in order, we must first put the family in order; to put the family in order, we must first cultivate our personal life; we must first set our hearts right."
~Confucius



Thursday, July 16, 2009

Gift or Servant?


"The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift."

~Albert Einstein

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Tuesday, July 14, 2009

Build Castles in the Air

Build Castles in the Air
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"If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put foundation under them."

~Henry David Thoreau

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Monday, July 13, 2009

Simplify, Simplify

Simplify, Simplify
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Life is actually quite simple. We complicate everything about our existence; our relationships, our responsibilities, our agenda, our time, our work, and our purpose.

Why are we afraid to make space for ourselves? What are we afraid we may find?

Instead, we run on adrenalin congested with the old endless to-do list, steadfastly adding more things day-after-day. Persistently, we believe we are getting to our destination, enjoying our journey (this must be a joke), breathlessly checking things off. We consciously (are we really?) think we are actually accomplishing what we want to be doing, so we can free up some time for our later 'real' wants. But is this realistically going to happen?

What are we really avoiding or denying? What don't we want to find out about? Do we have that much fear that we don't even want to know who we really are? What are our values, needs and desires? What are we tolerating or resisting? Don't we want to know? Or are we just pretending we want to know? Let's be really, really honest here.

Many of us have never been taught to nourish ourselves. We were taught how to deny and avoid our feelings. These feelings that we avoid and deny indicate our needs, values, and our desires. They are there to guide us. Instead, we were told repeatedly NOT TO BE selfish.  We were, basically, told to take care of everyone else.

So over time, we learned to avoid and deny our feelings, suffocate our emotions and choke down our so-called needless desires, withholding them from our senses. We shake it off, join a gym, social club, or chat room, or perhaps buy a new car or a new jacket. Maybe we spend thousands of dollars on workshops hoping to find some joy with what we have learned, never quite achieving that feeling that others so easily and ill-heartedly flaunt. Then we go back to flapping our tongues and think we make ourselves feel better after we've whined and complained a bit. But is this really going to change anything? It just looks like more avoidance.

Life is NOW! Liberate your Self!
  • Give yourself permission to let go of these limiting words that haunt you day and night, and for anyone that says them to you as well.
  • Open your heart, listen to and embrace what you are feeling.
  • Acknowledge your soul. Your spirit is calling out to you.
  • Schedule the things you want to do into your life, even with the resistance and complaints from others. Don't deny your breadth that is keeping you alive.
Holding yourself back will restrict you from finding out what you truly want, taking away the love you have for yourself, and bury your joy. It's scary at first to make that move forward, but when you take that very first step, the next one's get a bit easier every time.

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Monday, July 6, 2009

Others Will Shift ONLY When They Want Too!!

Do you ever feel like your knocking your head up against a wall? As you grow and shift your way of seeing things, learning knew tools to improve your way of thinking, as well as improving your attitude, you automatically want others to come along with you. You want the one's closest to you to improve their way of being, so that life can give them what they desire. And besides, this shift in perspective is a sure way to become more joyful and more content.

Following the light gives us such a grand perspective. It broadens our view. We then want to share the beauty that we now see with everyone we love!

I know how much I have helped myself and how my new way of living has improved my way of being, mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually, but I am not perfect. I am far from that! But some people, no matter how close they are to your heart, have their own life to live. Fear has a great pull on them and they would rather wallow in their pity, thrown from circumstance to circumstance trying to change everything around them, rather than do something about themselves!! It frustrates me as well as saddens me. It is not my way to badger them to live a more peaceful life, but I had enough of listening to their complaints. I don't want to hear their whining anymore! It sure sucks though, when you see them struggle. Sometimes it is extremely challenging to be able to see the Source within others when they continue to beat themselves up, judge and ridicule your way of living, and also repeat the same old negative patterns with an attitude of, "I'm set in my ways!"

Today I choose to move outward into the greater world and find new, wholesome, positive, loving and respectful relationships that are like-minded, that feed my soul. A large nourishing circle of friends that are positive, optimistic, appreciative and see the beauty in all things, is a family that I am building.

I've learned a great deal from the various relationships that I have encountered during my life and I am truly appreciative for them all. For I would not be who I am today without them. Although challenging during the events, they have made me a better person and I only want to continue this route. Life is grand! We see what we want to see. And sometimes in life we have to move on. So rather than focusing and listening to their whining trying to be understanding, and in a negative way lowering my vibration, I choose to shift my focus of attention.

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