Sunday, March 27, 2011

Permission to Be You

Permission to Be You
by Desiree Leigh, Wake Up to Live

Many of us have a difficult time giving ourselves permission to be who we really are - to be ourselves.  We strive to be something we are not which is nothing close to who we really are.  But then, "do we really know who we are anyways?"  Because of the demands of the world and the loyalty, honor, or roles we need to attain and play with which may include our family, spouse, friends, children, boss, clergy, teachers, politicians, community, and organizations, we feel we 'should' be something that we really are not.  Sometimes we're not even aware of this 'should be.'

There's a sense of subtlety when it comes to knowing who we really are, and giving ourselves permission to be just that.  That feeling of who we really are can be elusive and hard to detect.  We have it, we get it, we understand it, but we really don't.  It lives somewhere beyond us, almost unreachable, this thing called me.  Who are we really giving permission to?  Is it for everyone else around me?  Or, is it really for me?  Who am I really? 

We don't really recognize that we aren't giving ourselves permission.  We think we are.  We really do most of the time.  But the giving permission comes down to "for who or for what?"  Giving permission to be me is distant from me when it's for who or what.  It's not me being me at all.  It's me being for them.  Out of habituation, we wholeheartedly believe we are following what we really want and choose to do, and who we chose to be.  And, when many of us get there, finally reaching our destination, or not even that, but living on that journey, and thinking we're giving ourselves permission to be, we're disappointed, we're befuddled.  Maybe then, just maybe and hopefully then we'll begin to ask "who's plan am I really following?"  "Who's life am I really leading?"

Many of us have a difficult time giving ourselves permission to be who we really want to be, to be something different, to do something out of the ordinary, and sometimes to make change.  Perhaps the real me wants to leave a spouse, move away from the children, quit a job, sell all my personal belongings and my home I've lived in for 25 years and move over seas, or maybe become a pastry chef or school teacher.  Whatever it may be it's within you.  Are you listening to who you really are?  For real?  Are you giving yourself permission to be YOU?

"You can recognize a pioneer by the arrows in his/her back."  
 ~Beverly Rubik

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Friday, March 25, 2011

New Day

New Day

"No matter how dark it seems
When cloudy skies block hopes and dreams
When you stumble, fall, and can't get back up
Wheels keep spinning but you're stuck
We reach out to you with tender care
On a healing journey we will share
With words of hope and a better way
To walk in the light of each New Day."

~Krystal Kuehn, New Day Counseling

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Sunday, March 13, 2011

Principles Are Substitutes for An Independent Outlook

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"Principles are substitutes for an independent outlook.  The owner would be lost in the ocean of events if he were not able to orient himself by these fixed bearings.  Usually he is even proud of them and does not regard them as weaknesses, but as a source of strength.  He hangs on to them because of the insufficiency of his own independent judgment."

~Frits Perls

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Saturday, March 12, 2011

Calling Their Denial Knowledge

Calling their Denial Knowledge

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"It is in these acts called trivialities that the seeds of joy are forever wasted, until men and women look round with haggard faces at the devastation their own waste has made, and say, the earth bears no harvest of sweetness / calling their denial knowledge."

~George Eliot

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Monday, March 7, 2011

Love Is Like A Beautiful Flower

Love is a Beautiful Flower

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"Love is like a beautiful flower
which I may not touch, 
but whose fragrance makes the garden 
a place of delight just the same."

~Helen Keller

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