Sunday, April 24, 2011

Stop Feeding Your Fears

Stop Feeding Your Fears
by Desiree Leigh, Wake Up to Live


To stop feeding your fears, you must first be able to face them.  Until the fear is looked at, the fear that holds you back will continue to live within you.  You may believe that you can hide the fear, sweep it under the rug, or shove it into a closet or basement somewhere never to be seen again.  In this case, you're only burying it temporarily.  The fear is still hiding and lurking within you.  Sooner or later it will resurface.  It will come back!

So stop feeding your fears.  Shine the light onto them.  Look at the fear head on, one by one.  Don't condemn or judge the fear.  If you do this, you are only reinforcing it.  Treat your fears with love, respect, and kindness because, in the end, they are you.  If you condemn and judge your fears, you condemn and judge yourself.  What happens when you condemn and judge yourself?  You become resistant, you lose respect for yourself, and you lower your confidence and your self-esteem.

Love your fear.  It's part of you.  You still love your child or best friend even though they've been disobedient, don't you?  You don't pretend everything is okay and leap over it?  I hope not, anyways.  What you do is confront it with love.  You look at it, you observe it, you question it, and you ask where it came from all with the power of love not with the power of resentment, anger, ridicule and condemnation.  Shine the light onto your fears to stop feeding your fears.

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Saturday, April 2, 2011

The Image of Yourself Is Making You or Breaking You

The Image of Yourself is Making You or Breaking You
by Desiree Leigh, Wake Up to Live

The image you have of yourself is making you or breaking you.  No matter what you're thinking or feeling, all that energy radiates outward into the world around you attracting back the likeness of those thoughts and feelings.  They ripple out either enhancing your life or detracting from it.

This message is not that simple or easily taken in, though, when it comes down to anyone that has lived through any traumatic events of any kind.  Memories are stored deep within dictating how you behave and what you attract.  Most often, you are not even conscious of it.  Children, teens, or adults enduring traumatic events place themselves mentally and emotionally somewhere else most often forgetting the events.  However, these memories don't disappear.  They are stored in the mind and body expressing themselves in post traumatic stress disorder, nightmares, flashbacks, startle responses, and dissociative behaviours.

So in the end, for anyone dealing with trauma, don't be so hard on yourself about getting your thoughts and feelings in order to attract what you need to enhance.  Talk therapy is what works initially.  The only way these memories within the cells of your body and mind will come out is when they feel safe to surface.  Forcing happy and abundant thoughts over a nightmare will not change anything.  The traumatic memories in your mind and body will remain, only now with happy thoughts painted over the nightmare.  When the memories and body expressions surface through a safe environment, that is the time to examine them.  By doing this, you will, over time, move past them.  And, with that new-found freedom, the image of yourself will also slowly change, where you will begin to see yourself in a new light and with a whole lot of love.

You cannot force love upon yourself.  You already are love.  You just don't see it yet when you've endured a traumatic event.  Allowing yourself to bring up the memories, examine them, and then let them go, is what will heal your mind, body, and soul.

The image of yourself if making you or breaking you.  However, you have a choice on what you can do.  Which one will you make? 


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You Yourself Deserve Your Love and Affection


"You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, 
deserves your love and affection."

~Buddha