|A Goal With A Plan: Is It Worth It?|
By Desiree Leigh Thompson
Wake Up to Live
You research your plan. You work and study towards your plan. You acquire what you need, and you finally take action and follow through with your plan. Then, at one fell swoop, something happens in your life, and poof your plan and all of your devoted time and hard work has gone to rat poop.
Many of us plan our life like this-meticulously-probably because many of us are diligently taught this. "Be prepared! Don't be caught in the storm without your socks on!" This is called maturity, professionalism, and/or the right kind of business model by most universities and businesses. Research, plan, research some more, collect as much information as possible from various sources, plan again, and then follow through only when you have enough information to make the best and most informed decision. Could this strategy actually be wrong? I guess it depends on what you are planning for.
This way of thinking is good, for sure, when doing many things. For instance, I wouldn't invest $10,000 on a whim. When deciding what medical treatment to go with, I'd make sure I studied and compared dozens of journals before I decided on a route. Before spending thousands of dollars on an education, I'd research and plan my journey, as well. Perhaps, setting up a plan is best when you want a large family, too. On the other hand, life has many twists and turns, and I've noticed that even when I do plan excessively or, at the least, gather enough information to make an informed decision, life sometimes blows me into another direction. Notice how frustrating this could be. Is this the cosmic plan? Is this lack of discipline towards a plan? Or is this an unconscious way of saying that I didn't want this plan in the first place?
Honestly, I don't think there is an answer to whether or not you 'should' have a extensively designed plan. There is only the questions left, and if we all wanted to, we could debate it to death, but there is no real reason to do this--debate excessively about who is right or wrong--because, in the end, every one's life situation is different and unique to them: individually, communally, regionally, and nationally. What I say for myself will never be true for you and vice-verse. Only 'you' will have that answer, and only you can decide whether a detailed plan or not would work best for you and in what situation.
Plans are good, but plans can also be cumbersome and derail your truth. Taking too much time to plan out a situation or a direction may work against you, and too many facts can get confusing. When is enough enough? I think it's best to draw an imaginary line (e.g. a date on the calender; a particular number of journals you want to read) so that you can see when you've got enough information; then make the decision, and in a few days, weeks, or months, reevaluate the plan making adjustments when needed. You can ask yourself some questions like: Were you really evaluating what was on the table when you made the decision? Were you bulldozing the truth or the facts? Were you really listening to the said material around you? I know I can bulldoze the truth, and when I do bulldoze the truth, I overlook important items in the decision-making process. Two or three years ago, my truth looked one way. Today, I've realized my truth is no longer the same as it once was, but I continued to live in the same manner. When you do reflection, you'll pick up these signs (some sooner than later ;). Anyways, even though plans derail, for whatever reason, this doesn't mean that you take it with a smile and shrug it off like nothing happened or it didn't hurt (this is denial); either does it mean that you get back on the horse and continue to follow that same plan (perhaps, you do, though, depending on what it is that you really want). Maybe there is another plan for you, and you need to take another look at what perspective(s) you are focusing on and the ones you are trying to avoid.
I have stated before that Waking Up to Live is not easy; it sometimes sounds glamorous by many, but many also sell it as glamorous. Life is work. Wake Up to Live means to work your truth; seeing life as it really is and making that decision to do something about it. Wake Up to Live; it can be frustrating, challenging, tedious, and strenuous, but your life is worth every bit of it. When life kicks you in another direction, ask why and what you are missing/ignoring? Be true to yourself first!
Now I am gonna make a lemon pie!
Wake Up to Live with Desiree Leigh Thompson