Thursday, October 29, 2009

Life is Not a Journey to the Grave

Life Is Not A Journey to the Grave
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"Life is not a journey to the grave,
With the intention of arriving safely
In a pretty and well-preserved body,
But rather to skid in broadside,
Thoroughly used up,
Totally worn out,
And loudly proclaiming -
"WOW, what a ride!!!"


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Monday, October 26, 2009

Love the Fool in Me

Love the Fool in Me
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"I must learn to love the fool in me -- the one who feels too much, talks too much, takes too many chances, wins sometimes and loses often, lacks self-control, loves and hates, hurts and gets hurt, promises and breaks promises, laughs and cries. It alone protects me against that utterly self-controlled, masterful tyrant whom I also harbour, and who would rob me of human aliveness, humility, and dignity but for my fool."

~Theodore I. Rubin, MD

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Tuesday, October 20, 2009

Growing A New Life

Growing A New Life
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Accept the messiness and the mistakes.
Let go of the perfection.
Embrace who you are today.
To change limiting and self-destructive habits,
it takes perseverance.
The price of freedom is eternal vigilance.
Are you ready for the work
to reap the rewards?
Are you ready to grow a new life?

"As you sow, So shall you reap."

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Sunday, October 18, 2009

Grasp Hold

Grasp Hold
by Dustin Leigh Bryant
(My Son)

See the fire in the sky,
As it drowns behind the cloud.
The world becomes dark,
And death leads the way.
You follow everything you've ever known,
Read the books and you're still a slave,
Stick your hand through the glass of life,
Grasp hold,
Make a sacrifice.

Don't let the world make you.
Let go and be free.
Don't follow the stages footsteps
Media, America, Hollywood.
Make your own life,
And love what you have.
Change is the world day by day,
Take a guess you're here to stay.

~Dustin Leigh Bryant

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Monday, October 12, 2009


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Blame is a convenient excuse to why the world is not exactly the way we want it to be, and a way to divert the responsibility away from the one blaming.

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Sunday, October 11, 2009

Happy Harvest

Happy Harvest

May you be blessed with all good things.
May all your joys be too numerous to count.
May your victories flow freely.
May your struggles and shortcomings
serve to make you stronger and wiser.
May beauty and abundance be your constant companions.
May every direction you choose lead you to grace.
May every doubt and fear be replaced with
an enduring trust.
May you be aware that unconditional love
is who you are,
so not to be tempted to judge, condemn, or feel alone.
And when there is only darkness,
may the light within illuminate the world.
Live, love, laugh and play during the sunshine and the storms,
because behind each experience is a rainbow to be discovered.
Happy Harvest to the plentiful within.

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Sunday, October 4, 2009

The Process of Decision Making Through Conflict

The Process of Decision Making Through Conflict
Wake Up to Live with Desiree Leigh
Do you realize that everything is a process? That everything has order to it? Just as life, success, and the gestation period of a child and a seed has a process, so does the art of decision making. Recently I purchased some wonderful dvd's on The Art of Decision Making. Since I'm an avid learner, I love to read and watch many lectures on the fundamentals of many disciplines, as well as business & economics.

I never really thought of decision making as a process,though, and neither did I think that conflict and debate were part of that process too. Most people like to avoid conflict, believing that it causes pain and resistance in others besides ourselves. And many times it does, depending how we handle the situation. But in order to make a better more informed decision, listening to both or many sides of the topic in debate is actually the best way of doing it. Chuck Knight, CEO of Emerson Electric and Jack Welch, CEO of General Electric had built their firm's core values on constructive conflict.

The stimulation of debate is essential in good decision making. Someone known as the devil's advocate would argue the ideas or comments in question to determine their validity and benefits.

In the 1950's television show, Your Shows of Shows, staring comedian Sid Caesar, comic writers Mel Brooks, Larry Gelbart, Neil Simon, Woody Allen, and Carl Reiner would enter a famous writers' room where they fought and argued loudly. In a safe environment, free to express their thoughts and opinions, ideas flowed freely.

One very important stipulation, though, is that all conflict was to remain productive and free of slander, building mutual respect while understanding each person's cognitive style. As well as being aware of the warning signs of any dysfunctional conflict.

Everything is a process. The birth of an idea, decision making, life, success, the gestation period of a child, healing, learning a new subject, falling in love, and falling out of love, are just a few things of an endless many. So many times we want to get from here to there in a single leap avoiding confrontation, vulnerability, challenges, effort, emotions and, yes, conflict, but is this realistic as humans? By avoiding any of the above, we stop our learning; we close ourselves off to the world that enlightens us, that gives us meaning. Even evolution, awakening, discovery, enlightenment, and expansion are all a process. If we can truly understand this then perhaps we can stop the hurry mode, live in the moment of all polarities, joy and sorrow, ease and struggle, love and hate, and ENJOY!


Roberto, M. A. (2009). The Are of Critical Decision Making. The Teaching Company. Chantilly, Virginia

Friday, October 2, 2009

Cognitive Biases in Decision Making

Cognitive Biases in Decision Making
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"To cite a specific cause would be to promote an omniscience that only gods, drunks, politicians, and dramatic writers can claim."
~Anatoll Boukreev

A quote that gives impact into understanding that the 'cause' of any one event is not but 'one' cause but a multitude of events creating either a breakdown or failure or, on the other end, success or a win!

Some causes to the effects or results of the May 1996 Mt. Everest deaths.

Systematic and cognitive biases impair the judgments and choices that individuals make. There are many other biases than the ones I mentioned above, though. My intention is for those who are reading this material to gain a self-awareness of the biases that direct our decision making in all areas of our lives.

The sunk-cost effect refers to people investing more commitment to a project, course of action, or a goal when they have invested a lot of time, money and resources into it. In some ways we can consider this gambling. For example, we place our stakes on the table, lose, and now want to 'fix' the error because there's an emotional attachment to the lost investments. I know I have experienced this in my stock option trades; impaired emotions guiding my choices, such as investing more into a losing trade or doing nothing and just hoping the trade will turn around to my benefit; holding on 'rigidly' to a failed plan of action. There is a time to stick with a commitment and there's a time to say 'next'; to be flexible and change your approach when needed.

What happened at Mt. Everest in May of 1996 was indeed worse. Team leaders and members defied the two o'clock rule. This meant that in the event they did not reach the top of the mountain by two o'clock, they were to turn around and head back down. But because they had invested $70,000+ and much of their time training for this project, they defied the rule, and it cost them greatly; their lives.

The overconfident bias can also lead to impaired judgment in decision making. Overconfidence (as well as under confidence) is attached with impaired emotion. What happened with Rob Hall, one of the team leaders, was that in all his 39 climbs to reach the summit, he experienced sunshine and an ease of travel, calling the path to the summit 'a yellow brick road'. This cognitive bias impaired his judgment because he did not positively assess the difficulty in descending in the dark, later defying the two o'clock rule.

The recency effect is defined as over relying on 'recent events' when establishing probabilities; not looking at the full range of past as well as current experiences. Because of the recent "hot streaks" of success, the leaders underestimated the probability of failure. Over the course of Rob Hall's experiences in climbing Mt. Everest, the weather was always with him. He was never able to experience a storm high on the mountain top. This impaired his decision to deny the two o'clock rule.

What biases are you unaware of that are controlling your decision making process? What biases would you rather deny instead of face? Perhaps it may be a business or personal love relationship, an investment in real estate or the stock market? Perhaps it's your socially conformed vision or goals? Maybe it's even your health or physical condition? What thoughts are you holding onto 'rigidly' and what are you overlooking or denying?

A good question to ask would be "How should I go about making that decision?" when stumped on what to do, whether it be to leave a long-term personal or business relationship, to leave a current high paying position, or to enter an educational course or workshop. Then let the Universe begin bringing you all the resources you need to make a better decision, rather than asking "What decision should I make?"

Plan your course of action; stay committed; and most forgotten about, remain open and flexible.


Roberto, M. A. (2009). The Are of Critical Decision Making. The Teaching Company. Chantilly, Virginia