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Procrastination Sucks the Life Out of You

Procrastination Sucks the Life Out of You
What are you putting off to tomorrow that can be done today? I know you've been asked this question many times over, and, I could hear your voice echoing, "yeh, yeh, yeh, but..." But, really, when will you do the things you really want to do today rather than put them off until tomorrow?
When the kid(s) graduate. When I lose 30 pounds. When I'm retired. When I feel better. When the snow melts. When the snow falls. When I finish my undergraduate degree. When I get certified.When I meet the 'right' coach.When I have enough money.When I move back home. Blah, blah, blah, but...when? I don't know what it may be for you, at this moment, that is putting you off from doing the things you want to do in life. And, even you may not know what they are. However, you have a choice. You have a choice to be restrained by these reins that are holding you back (usually called beliefs), or to uncover them, face them, …

Allow Your Body to Speak

Allow Your Body to Speak
To move out from the emotional experience you are in, you must first move through the emotional experience, not hurdle over it. Hurdling means to reason or intellectualize. Hurdling means, rather than experience the emotion, you manage to project it outward onto something or someone else instead of feeling and looking within. Hurdling means, you're talking about it rather than being in it. In order to move out of the emotional experience, you must be in it and experience it fully, meaning, moving through it.

If you jump over it, and you don't allow your body to speak to you, life will guarantee you another go around, just a different scene with different people but the same lesson. If you don't allow your body to speak, these emotions stay buried deep within dictating your behaviour and your actions today.

When you bury the emotional experience, the emotions lives within the cells of your body and your subconscious, therefore, you attract all …

Get Grounded in Enthusiasm

Get Grounded in Enthusiasm
Enthusiasm is the mother of effort, and without it nothing great was ever achieved. [Ralph Emerson]
We're coming to the end of 2010, and I'm curious to find out if you started to look back to see your successes, even the ones that you didn't have written down as goals. Many of us are quick to see what we need to do to improve or change ourselves.  So why not first create a solid grounding of enthusiasm that will keep you inspired by asking "What successes did I achieve, beyond my expectations and perhaps others, that were both on my list and not on my list?"

Set the foundation to inspire yourself not only looking at what needs to be done; but, see your successes first. This is not always easy for many of us. We are quick to judge and condemn ourselves, and we look for what we didn't do or what we don't like about ourselves. We don't need anyone else to be hard on us, we are hard enough on ourselves, aren't we?

I know …

Are We Too Busy to Enjoy Life?

Are We Too Busy to Enjoy Life
"Everything in your life is there as a vehicle for your transformation. Use it!"
~Ram Dass
Synchronicity is everywhere. It's happening all around you. Have you been divinely connected noticing what messages are in front of you to lead you exactly to your divine right place?

I've noticed more synchronicity in my life than ever before, and to be honest, it's the most wonderful, goose-pimpley feeling you can get. Many times, I ignored them, hurrying to my next project, appointment, or task at hand. That was the past. Today, I've learned to listen more intently. Just when you least expect it, or just in the nick of time when you feel discouraged, exhausted, or confused here comes another message or messages shedding light on what you're not paying attention to. Receiving these so-called coincidental events are such a blessing. It's life speaking to you, showing you exactly what needs to be done next!

I will be back in U…

How To Have a Joyful Life With So Many Priorities

Are We No Longer Enjoying Life Because We Have So Many Priorities

In Washington , DC , at a Metro Station, on a cold January morning in 2007, this man with a violin played six Bach pieces for about 45 minutes. During that time, approximately 2,000 people went through the station, most of them on their way to work. After about 3 minutes, a middle-aged man noticed that there was a musician playing. He slowed his pace and stopped for a few seconds, and then he hurried on to meet his schedule.

About 4 minutes later:
The violinist received his first dollar. A woman threw money in the hat and, without stopping, continued to walk.

At 6 minutes:
A young man leaned against the wall to listen to him, then looked at his watch and started to walk again.

At 10 minutes:A 3-year old boy stopped, but his mother tugged him along hurriedly. The kid stopped to look at the violinist again, but the mother pushed hard and the child continued to walk, turning his head the whole ti…

Carving Mountains With Storms

Carving Mountains With the Storms
I went to see the wonderful Wayne W. Dyer at the Queen Elizabeth Theatre in Vancouver, BC, this past Tuesday with a beautiful and warm friend Nicole. We hadn't seen each other for over a month so it was lovely to chat. We had so much to catch up on and we loved every minute of it.

Wayne Dyer shared many things. One thing that stood out from my mind was when he said something like this...'If we didn't allow the storms around the mountains to be, we wouldn't be able to see the beautiful carvings the storms leave behind visible on the mountains side.'

With those storms of life, we raise our consciousness and experience a greater light. Without the experience of the storms we'd probably be living life very unconsciously.

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Mental and Emotional Wellness Begin With You

Mental and Emotional Wellness Begin with You

If you don't have mental and emotional health and wellness, you have nothing. Without the two, life's chaotic and out of control. Life's choices become emotionally and irrationally based. It's the dreaded knee-jerk reaction to all of life's circumstances. Your choices are directed by your emotions and mental state as they are right now, rather than from a state of wellness and health.

How many more times will you react to the driver in front of you because they were driving too slow? Or, maybe they past you, and you didn't like that. How many more times will you blow up at your kids because the room isn't clean or they didn't do their chores? How many more dreaded times will you defend yourself to the death when someone makes a statement that you don't agree with?

When you believe you are worthless and non-deserving, you will respond to everything that happens around you, with that sense of worthl…

Open Your Heart to Your Divinity Within

Open Your Heart to Your Divinity Within

Canada Remembers

Canada Remembers
If you haven't set any time this year to remember the men and women who fought so bravely in their time of duty for our countries, today is the day to do this - the day to remember the members of the armed forces who died from their services, as well as the civilians and all the families.

Forgiveness Begins with A Willing Heart

Forgiveness Begins with A Willing Heart
Forgiveness is a process that will begin when you're willing to let go of the burdens you've been carrying, whether it's about your self or someone else. Forgiveness is not something that you make up your mind to do, and then, voila, it just happens. No! Not at all. That's a misconception that continues to get preached constantly. "You must forgive because it's the best thing to do, or else..." If you force anything upon yourself, what happens? You resist it. You may do what you need to do or are supposed to do, for a short time, but you won't do it with a willing heart and it won't last. Yes, you can tell yourself how you'll feel, at peace and in harmony with your self because you've released the suffering, but without a willing heart forgiveness will be short-lived and it won't be real.

One of the steps to open up your heart to forgiveness, is to ask yourself some questions such as, &#…

Profoundly Present to Life's All

Profoundly Present to Life's All

by Desiree Leigh, Wake Up to Live
Driving on Georgia Street in Vancouver to visit a friend across town, I was injected divinely through the heart understanding my humanness. I felt surges of various feelings showering me every few seconds, dissolving as quickly as they came, as I drove towards Burrard Street. The feelings of being swayed hither and thither felt like I was being played in a pinball machine. I being the ball, very conscious and present of these hits of feelings piercing through my body.

The surges of different feelings are part of life and part of being a sentient being. They can take us for a ride either down hill or up. We have the choice on the direction, and how long we want to be with them. Experiencing these feelings, the complete presence of them, and understanding how they come and go so quickly doesn't always make the process of moving through them easy.

As I drive, I'm happy, smiling, and enjoying the scenery …

Happy Halloween Jokes

Happy Halloween Jokes
Here are some Halloween Jokes,
don't peek!

What do ghosts serve for dessert?
When is it bad luck to meet a black cat?
What was the witch's favorite subject in school?
Where do baby ghosts go during the day?
What monster flies his kite in a rain storm?
What do the birds sing on Halloween?
Who did Frankenstein take to the prom?
What is Transylvania's national sport?
Who won the skeleton beauty contest?
What do skeletons say before they begin dining?


Ice ScreamWhen you're a mouseSpelling
Dayscare Centers
Benjamin Frankenstein
Twick or Tweet
His ghoul friend
Drac racing No body Bone appetit!

How to Respond in a Crisis

On Saturday, I attended the Non-Violent Crisis Intervention training program at Douglas College in Coquitlam, BC. Most of the young attendees were going into some sort of health care field, such as nursing or dementia care. Others, were working with at-risk youth and children with autism. I chose to go to learn more about better communication, in general, with everyone, and to be more pro-active in how I can handle a crisis situation and prevent acting-out behavior, whether it's in a family situation, dealing with people that have addictions, or someone at the super market. After attending this workshop, I came out with greater awareness on all forms of communication, such as verbal, non-verbal, and para-verbal, and the steps to take, without over-reacting, even while you're in a state of fear.

Jill Bloom, a psychiatric nurse and our instructor, shared many wonderful and crazy situations she had when she was a primary nurse. She stated several times, that if she knew the…

We Can Learn to Love with Our Crooked (Imperfect) Heart

We Can Learn to Love with Our Crooked Heart

By working with the repressed emotion in the body (e.g., anger, rage), we realize that we are human, and that there is no such thing as a perfect human being. In fact, the better we think we are and the more we imagine we are, the darker our shadow is, and the darker the material that we have to release. 
 When we know how much rage and grief and jealousy and greed and lust are in us, we have to forgive ourselves for being human.

To forgive is to transform what we otherwise reject. Some people find that very hard because they've been brought up to be perfect. But once we know that we can love ourselves with all our human flaws and idiosyncrasies then we can love others from that same place. 
 Or, as W. H. Auden had stated, "We can learn to love each other with our own crooked heart."

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Not All Children Know How to Play

Not All Children Know How to Play
"I did know, instinctively,
that to play was to be."

~The Soul's Code

The concept of play seems easy. We all play when we are children. Right? Wrong! 
Childhood trauma survivors, most often, do not know how to play. They can't self-identify, so they don't know how to image and play. A concept that most people that have had healthy childhoods do not understand, but one that is a serious struggle for adult survivors.
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Your Joy Is Your Sorrow Unmasked

Your Joy is Your Sorrow Unmasked
Then a woman said,
Speak to us of Joy and Sorrow.
And he answered:
Your joy is your sorrow unmasked.
And the selfsame well from which your laughter riseswas oftentimes filled with your tears.
And how else can it be?
The deeper that sorrow carves into your being,
the more joy you can contain.
Is not the cup that holds your wine
thevery cup that was burned in the potter's oven?
[Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet]

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Influence Others With Your Behavior Not Your Mocking

I was perusing the internet to see what Thanksgiving meant to others. I was dumbfounded to see the criticism, mockery, righteousness, and blame, as well as strong advice in stern voices saying 'just be grateful!'

You can't tell someone to 'just be grateful' when they have a lot of blame, hate, guilt or shame lurking within them. They'll have to go through the process on their own. Making righteous comments won't work either. It'll make you look like a jack ass and them resist your opinions more. I see this over and over again with many, forcing the issue down someone's throat. When you feed your child a new vegetable or pablum, do you force it in their mouth, demanding that it's good for them and they'd better eat it? I'd hope not.

How do we get to the true feelings of gratitude and not the gratitude that is a facade? Understanding and empathy of others breed acceptance and gratitude. If you want someone to be truly grateful, le…

Doukhobors, 'Spirit Wrestler,' Beliefs & Acceptance

I had two choices to write about for an assignment for my writing class. One was to write about a fact about myself that I am interested in, whether it be a character trait, my date of birth, my ancestry, or my appearance. The other was to seek out an article from a newspaper that caught my eye from the month and year I was born. I found the events: The US President, Lyndon B. Johnson, and his top-ranking advisers meet to discuss plans to bomb North Vietnam, and, Beach Boys' bassist/keyboardist Brian Wilson suffers a nervous breakdown on a flight from Los Angeles to Houston, eventually precipitating his retirement. Good topics, but no real true living experience at that time in my life to talk about.

I went with the ancestry. In the end, I didn't complete my assignment, though. What I did was gain a lot of knowledge on my Russian Doukhobor Orthodox Freedomite Christian background that I was brought up in.

Many of you probably know what it's like when you're youn…

Write Without Imposing Structure

Write Without Imposing Structure
"I get very nervous when people start talking about structure. It always sound like a cage over my writing...Structure imposed from the outside according to a preconceived formula is a cage. It does not allow the original and organic shape of the writing to emerge. Structure created before the fact of writing is artificial and limiting. Real structure comes from within the material itself, is not separate from it, which is why I like to leave a discussion of structure until plenty of writing has been done."
~Patti Miller, Writing your Life.

Right now, I have to tell you, I want to fly to Australian and give Patti a big kiss on the lips! Reading these words were breathtaking. They gave me goose pimples, I was so excited. I joined a writing class at the University of British Columbia Writing your Life's Story: Autobiography and Memoir. Lastnight was my first class. I was looking forward to learning more about writing and I was bless…

Someday May Never Happen

Will That Someday Happen For You?
"Someday when I grow up, finish school and get a job,
I'll start living my life the way I want...
someday after the mortgage is paid off,
the finances are on track and the kids are grown up,
I'll drive that new car and take exciting trips abroad...someday,
now that I'm retired,
I'll buy that beautiful motor home,
and travel across this great country,
and see all there is to see...someday."

~Ed Foreman

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In a World Full of Danger, I Sow Seeds

In a World Full of Danger, I Sow Clover
"In the dark of the moon,
In the flying snow, in the dead of winter,
War spreading, families dying, the world in danger
I walk the rocky hillside, sowing clover."

~Wendell Berry

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Self-Reevaluation and Your Essential Values

Many of us don't think before we act. We don't take stock at why we act out in sheer habit. We are too busy to reflect and, rather, we respond reflexively. We act automatically.

Most problem behaviors happen because we are trying to achieve relaxation and assertion.Most cravings, such as alcohol, food and drink, are usually from boredom, anxiety and your current social situation.Habitual habits, over time, can become unconscious and spontaneous - eating, drinking, smoking, getting angry, scared and depressed without even knowing why you're doing what you are doing. Take the time to stop and look at what is going on. Reflect to create awareness. Find the reasons for your immediate behavior. What benefits are you getting? What is it costing you?

See yourself 10, 20 or 30 years in the future. Continuing the habit, what are you doing? Who are you with? How is your health? Really picture what is possible with a behavior that does not serve you.

Now imagine how you wo…

The Secrecy of Abuse Causes Great Suffering

The Secrecy of Abuse Causes Great Suffering and Pain
For years, I felt bewildered about who I was. I was thrown astray with thoughts and feelings that I couldn't seem to dissect. I was constantly flooded with emotions from anger and rage to sadness and despair not knowing why. My moods would shift radically. It was the feeling of being jerked and pulled harshly and painfully. I experienced body sensations of anxiety and panic attacks, and nightmares I couldn't seem to control, feeling chaotic, crazy and confused. I couldn't make sense of anything. I would quickly get triggered by smell, touch, something I had seen or perhaps heard and yet I had no idea or recollection from where it was coming from or why.

I lived this way for years thinking I was just 'different', or perhaps, I didn't try hard enough to change my feelings, moods or thought. I even thought it could have come from being a spoiled child. I don't seem to recall this but maybe. "Wh…