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Silent Presence

Just letting someone know that you are there for them by holding a safe and sacred space for them is, sometimes, all that they need. This is called silent presence. However, this can be difficult for many of us. We, typically, don't like silence. Just think about when you had your last conversation with someone. Whenever there is a pause in the conversation, someone starts to feel a bit anxious and 'has to' say something. The void feels like it has to be filled. So we fix this by speaking to avoid that space. When you fill in this space by giving advice or making comments, you take away "their" moment to feel the emotions and to heal. Instead, they move out of their body, their feeling and emotions, to hear and think what you are saying. It is a form of distraction and avoidance.

There is a time and place to distract or avoid, but when someone is grieving or sifting through confusing emotions that arise from the memories of a traumatic event, it i…

What Is No Longer Serving You?

As time goes by, some things may not serve you anymore. Do you need to close some doors to serve you better or even to help you heal? 

Closing doors is a tough thing to do especially with people that we care for, but to salvage our sanity, safety, and spirituality, we may need to close the door to the people that suck the living energy out of us in order to rise higher than we are now--to be who we are intended to be. 

If you want to elevate yourself to the next level, you cannot hang with others that are always bickering and complaining or belittling and harassing. No matter how much you try, eventually, this lower level energy will get to you. You will not be able to sustain your higher energy source. 

Time-and-again, I have heard the words that "no one can make you feel bad; only you can do this to yourself." These individuals state that "you must take responsibility for your own happiness." Yes, this is true, but it's much more easier said than done. Controlli…

Woman Are Amazing Nurturers

Just a reminder to let you know how frigging amazing you are, and don't you forget that, because us over-givers tend to do that.

Women are nurturers and caregivers by nature. We love to give. We support and encourage. We love to make others happy, but, sometimes, we over-give to the point of exhaustion or resentment and sacrifice our own happiness.

On the flip-side, as nurturers and caregivers, we have a unique ability to make the world a better place for everyone to live. We empathize and inspire. Nevertheless, there are times when we need to schedule time-out and nurture ourselves.

Foster self-care, first. Give yourself the energy you need to continue to be a strong and healthy nurturer, connector, teacher, warrior, lover, and/or a leader. However you are contributing to your higher purpose through your greater self, take responsibility for your energy. Nurture yourself before you nurture others so you can stay strong and enduring.

You are amazing. Remember that, but, first fos…