Wake Up to Live blog is a resource for personal development, liberation, and women self-empowerment. Wake Up to Live creates awareness about topics such as oppression, sexual violence, childhood abuse, trauma, and the patriarchal social norms. Wake Up to Live discusses the recycled legacy of abuse that must stop and shares restorative measures for mental and emotional health, wellness, and strength for women to develop themselves and succeed.
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Love the Fool in Me
Love the Fool in Me Wake Up to Live with Desiree Leigh
"I must learn to love the fool in me -- the one who feels too much, talks too much, takes too many chances, wins sometimes and loses often, lacks self-control, loves and hates, hurts and gets hurt, promises and breaks promises, laughs and cries. It alone protects me against that utterly self-controlled, masterful tyrant whom I also harbour, and who would rob me of human aliveness, humility, and dignity but for my fool."
On the internet running through blog, Facebook, and IG posts or videos, there is always a wave of the same concepts of discussion each week. One person/business throws out an idea to talk about that week, and then many others (to figure out what they can discuss, post, or video that week) grab onto someone else's topic and put another spin on it. That's it. If you pay close attention to the posts, you will see what I am talking about. Take a look at the weekly discussions and see the uniformity in the topics of discussion, including the quotes that are posted. Perhaps it is coincidental. Perhaps it is collective energetic thought that brings this about. But, in most cases, I'm thinking it may be more about "What do I talk about this week?" and then grab an idea from someone else.
It is difficult to find weekly, let alone daily, topics to discuss and, at the same time, give good value to your audience. I get that. I've done the same thing. I'm guilty, but…
There is no single treatment for complex trauma such as PTSD or Complex PTSD, but the cornerstone of
treatment is building a collaborative working relationship with the survivor.
They need to restore safety and trust in human connection. The major drawbacks
to healing from chronic trauma and C-PTSD is isolation. If individuals
fear coming forward (due to stigma, minimization of the events, delayed
reporting, an oppressive society, self-shame or public shaming) and how they
may react to their environment, they are left to figure things out on their
own. There are many individuals that never receive formal treatment and,
instead, invest in their own methods by trial-and-error. I did because there was nothing out there. Also, anytime I'd go to the doctors office, it was said that "It was all in my head." Back then in the 80's and 90's and early 2000's, no one could see the enduring effects of chronic childhood abuse, repeated sexual assaults…
Why don't professionals talk about the importance of sexual healing for women and men that have been sexually abused as children and/or sexually assaulted? Its funny how many of us in society quickly come to the conclusion that all is well when we see these violated individuals appear to be coping and functioning well on a day to day basis. We talk about and do the research regarding the relationship between mental health and abuse a lot, speaking of depression and anxiety, but in much of the academic research publications, there is little to read about the process of sexual healing or how sexual abuse/assault has affected a woman's sexuality. I am not taking away the importance of mental health. However, why are we (e.g. health care professionals, researchers, and society) still afraid to talk about healthy sex and sexuality? It is a part of our mental and emotional health. How can we perceive that a woman's sexuality is in tact after chronic childhood sexual abuse, sexu…