Monday, December 27, 2010

Putting Off to Tomorrow

Putting Off to Tomorrow

What are you putting off to tomorrow that can be done today? I know you've been asked this question many times over, and, I could hear your voice echoing, "yeh, yeh, yeh, but..." But, really, when will you do the things you really want to do today rather than put them off until tomorrow?
  • When the kid(s) graduate.
  • When I lose 30 pounds.
  • When I'm retired.
  • When I feel better.
  • When the snow melts.
  • When the snow falls.
  • When I finish my undergraduate degree.
  • When I get certified.
  • When I meet the 'right' coach.
  • When I have enough money.
  • When I move back home.
  • Blah, blah, blah, but...when?
I don't know what it may be for you, at this moment, that is putting you off from doing the things you want to do in life. And, even you may not know what they are. However, you have a choice. You have a choice to be restrained by these reins that are holding you back (usually called beliefs), or to uncover them, face them, loosen them, and move beyond them.

The thing is sometimes we don't even know we're stuck in a limiting belief until someone points it out for us. That's the scary part. Years can go by without us consciously realizing what is holding us back. Most of us don't want to hear it, either. We say we want to change. We want to have a better life. We want to do things differently. We want to have better relationships with our children and partners, but do we? We want less mental fatigue and more emotional well-being, but do we...really? We talk a lot about it but when we're called to action, we come with a sack full of excuses or unconscious limiting beliefs that no one has ever challenged us on.

My job as a coach and a counsellor is to challenge you. Are you ready and willing to listen and hear your story from someone that looks at it in an objective yet empathic manner? Coaching and counselling is not for the light-hearted. Coaching and counselling opens up a doorway that exposes you to who are being today. Coaching and counselling is for the courageous. The courageous ones that want to and are completely willing to look at the position they currently take in life now, and then move beyond it.

What position do you want to take in life? Do you want to fall back to old limiting patterns that don't serve you anymore, or stay stuck and comforted by mean-well friends and family? I have nothing against loving family and friends that mean well. But, that's the thing, they mean well and their mean well advice doesn't necessarily support us in our wholeness and our growth.

What are you putting off to tomorrow that can begin today?
  • Telling your son or daughter that you love them.
  • Giving your children a hug, support and encouragement, rather than advice and tall tales.
  • Changing career directions.
  • Changing your undergraduate degree.
  • Ending a relationship.
  • Talking straight in a relationship.
  • Resolving past traumatic emotions.
  • Traveling the world.
  • Donating your time.
  • Losing 10 pounds.
  • Giving up sugar.
  • Giving up smoking.
  • Hiring a coach.
  • Healing abusive memories.
  • Learning to express yourself in a healthy way.
The list is endless. What is it for you? Fact... we'll all die... eventually. That day can be tomorrow. That day can be in one year. What do you want to do today? How do you want to be remembered? What are you putting off to tomorrow that can begin today? Who's running your life, you or your excuses/beliefs?

Wake Up to Live with Desiree Leigh

Friday, December 24, 2010

Christmas is Not a Time Nor a Season

"Christmas is not a time nor a season,
but a state of mind.

To cherish peace and goodwill,

to be plenteous in mercy,

is to have the real spirit of Christmas.

~Calvin Coolidge

Wake Up to Live with Desiree Leigh

Thursday, December 23, 2010

Merry Christmas, Everyone

Merry Christmas, Everyone!

Wishing you, your family and/or friends, all, a very joyous holiday season.

Wake Up to Live with Desiree Leigh

Saturday, December 18, 2010

Allow Your Body to Speak

Allow Your Body to Speak
by Desiree Leigh, Wake Up to Live

To move out from the emotional experience you are in, you must first move through the emotional experience, not hurdle over it. Hurdling means to reason or intellectualize. Hurdling means, rather than experience the emotion, you manage to project it outward onto something or someone else instead of feeling and looking within. Hurdling means, you're talking about it rather than being in it. In order to move out of the emotional experience, you must be in it and experience it fully, meaning, moving through it.

If you jump over it, and you don't allow your body to speak to you, life will guarantee you another go around, just a different scene with different people but the same lesson. If you don't allow your body to speak, these emotions stay buried deep within dictating your behaviour and your actions today.

When you bury the emotional experience, the emotions lives within the cells of your body and your subconscious, therefore, you attract all those things from that particular perspective. You also do things from that perspective without even realizing it.

Amazing, isn't it, how your mind and body work. To live with good health, happiness, freedom from the chaos in your head, and anxiety, allow your body to speak freely without constraints. Allow your body to express itself fully!

Wake Up to Live with Desiree Leigh

Thursday, December 16, 2010

Create a Solid Grounding of Enthusiasm

Create a Solid Grounding of Enthusiasm
Wake Up to Live with Desiree Leigh

We're coming to the end of 2010, and I'm curious to find out if you started to look back to see your successes, even the ones that you didn't have written down as goals. Many of us are quick to see what we need to do to improve or change ourselves.  So why not first create a solid grounding of enthusiasm that will keep you inspired by asking "What successes did I achieve, beyond my expectations and perhaps others, that were both on my list and not on my list?"

Set the foundation to inspire yourself not only looking at what needs to be done; but, see your successes first. This is not always easy for many of us. We are quick to judge and condemn ourselves, and we look for what we didn't do or what we don't like about ourselves. We don't need anyone else to be hard on us, we are hard enough on ourselves, aren't we?

I know it's still easy for me to look at what I didn't do, what I didn't complete, or what still needs to be done. It's a pattern that comes back quickly if I allow it to.

But, just so you know, you're already a success! Create a solid grounding of enthusiasm by identifying your successes and then reflecting on them internally; then ask yourself what you can do to raise the bar next year.

Create a solid grounding of enthusiasm by reviewing your successes regularly.

Wake Up to Live with Desiree Leigh

Sunday, December 12, 2010

Life is Speaking to YOU

"Everything in your life is there as a vehicle for your transformation. Use it!"
~Ram Dass

by Desiree Leigh, Wake Up to Live

Synchronicity is everywhere. It's happening all around you. Have you been divinely connected noticing what messages are in front of you to lead you exactly to your divine right place?

I've noticed more synchronicity in my life than ever before, and to be honest, it's the most wonderful, goosepimpley feeling you can get. Many times, I ignored them, hurrying to my next project, appointment, or task at hand. That was the past. Today, I've learned to listen more intently. Just when you least expect it, or just in the nick of time when you feel discouraged, exhausted, or confused here comes another message or messages shedding light on what you're not paying attention to. Receiving these so-called coincidental events are such a blessing. It's life speaking to you, showing you exactly what needs to be done next!

I will be back in University in January, and I was wanting to finalize some last minute projects, organizing my time for next year. I needed to simplify by elimination. Well, I was doing that, sort of. Time and time again, I found myself wrapped up in something new consuming a lot of my energy feeling scattered, and with little peace of mind.

Literally, I was slammed with synchronicity halting me in my tracks. Obviously, I was not paying attention. Well...I was and I wasn't. I thought I was doing enough to simplify by eliminating things on my agenda preparing for January. The universe thought different. The furnace broke down. I had to decorate two Christmas trees (decorated one, it died, undecorated, and decorated the second one). The power went out for hours. Parked in the school lot, I was hit by a car. Garburator got plugged. Unexpected root canal had to happen. It went on and on. Events that never happened before consumed me within a three to four week period. It was almost insane. Literally, it was ridiculous, and yet so funny at the same time.

I remember throwing up my arms saying "I give up." "What do you want me to do?" The answer was "Listen!" "You know what to do." Finally, I picked up the phone and made some calls, terminating projects, canceling social networking events and gatherings, and the such. As I was doing this, it was so freeing. I continued to laugh at how stubborn I really was.

My time now, is to reflect and to listen. To bake and share the sweet goodness with others. To slow down, and be completely present to my Self, my family, and my friends. Not to take on any new projects. To serve my clients, and the subscribers I have currently. To do some simple changes, and to let others really get to know who I really am. To share myself and my love more intently. I am so glad I gave up my stubbornness, and let go.

Is there anything you are not paying attention to that is in your face? I just want to let you know how freeing it feels to let go and listen to life. What is your life trying to tell you? Life is speaking to you right now. Shhh...listen!

Wake Up to Live with Desiree Leigh

Tuesday, December 7, 2010

Perception and People's Priorities

Perception and People's Priorities
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In Washington , DC , at a Metro Station, on a cold January morning in 2007, this man with a violin played six Bach pieces for about 45 minutes. During that time, approximately 2,000 people went through the station, most of them on their way to work. After about 3 minutes, a middle-aged man noticed that there was a musician playing. He slowed his pace and stopped for a few seconds, and then he hurried on to meet his schedule.

About 4 minutes later:
The violinist received his first dollar. A woman threw money in the hat and, without stopping, continued to walk.

At 6 minutes:

A young man leaned against the wall to listen to him, then looked at his watch and started to walk again.

At 10 minutes:A 3-year old boy stopped, but his mother tugged him along hurriedly. The kid stopped to look at the violinist again, but the mother pushed hard and the child continued to walk, turning his head the whole time. This action was repeated by several other children, but every parent - without exception - forced their children to move on quickly.

At 45 minutes:

The musician played continuously. Only 6 people stopped and listened for a short while. About 20 gave money but continued to walk at their normal pace. The man collected a total of $32.
After 1 hour:
He finished playing and silence took over. No one noticed and no one applauded. There was no recognition at all.
No one knew this, but the violinist was Joshua Bell, one of the greatest musicians in the world.
He played one of the most intricate pieces ever written, with a violin worth $3.5 million dollars.
Two days before, Joshua Bell sold-out a theater in Boston where the seats averaged $100 each to sit and listen to him play the same music.

This is a true story. Joshua Bell, playing incognito in the D.C. Metro Station, was organized by the Washington Post as part of a social experiment about perception, taste and people's priorities.

This experiment raised several questions:

*In a common-place environment, at an inappropriate hour, do we perceive beauty?

*If so, do we stop to appreciate it?

*Do we recognize talent in an unexpected context?

One possible conclusion reached from this experiment could be this:

If we do not have a moment to stop and listen to one of the best musicians in the world, playing some of the finest music ever written, with one of the most beautiful instruments ever made . . ..
How many other things are we missing as we rush through life?

Whether this email note is true or not, it can make us all think about what we are choosing to ignore in our lives because we are too busy. Setting our intentions to slow down and observe life would be a start to seeing and experiencing more of its beauty.

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