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What Is Real Success?

What Is Real Success?
To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to  appreciate beauty, to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived.  This is to have  succeeded.  [Ralph Waldo Emerson]

Are You Feeling Alone During the Holiday Season

Feeling Alone During the Holiday Season
The holiday season is a wonderful time of year for many of us.  Filled with joy, laughter, great food, and the company of loved one's, the Christmas season keeps us busy three fold with festivities.  It's a beautiful time of year when you have people around you to share the love.
However, not everyone has this pleasure - to be around family, friends, or loved ones.  Whether you are a soldier away at war, have experienced a death of a partner or child, made a recent move to another part of the country, or remember the dark Christmas pasts with drunk gatherings and abuse, sometimes celebrating the holiday season with joy can be extremely difficult; and, feeling alone may result.
What's important to remember is that there is a somber sort of energy around this time of year that seems to be more magnified than other times.  Perhaps it's the recognition of the collective consciousness.  Also, even when you're around family, somehow…

Your Children Are Not Your Children

"Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself. They come through you but not from you, and though they are with you yet they belong not to you. You may give them your love but not your thoughts, for they have their own thoughts.  You may house their bodies but not their souls, for their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams. You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you. For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.  You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth. The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and he bends you with his might that his arrows may go swift and far. Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness; for even as he loves the arrow that flies, so he loves also the bow that is stable."  ~Khalil Gibran

Dare to Raise Your Voice

Women and children that have experienced sexual crimes live in silence, trapped within a closet of denial, secrecy, and shame.  To speak about their experiences of rape, domestic battery, and incest is to invite public humiliation, ridicule, and disbelief both from family members and society in general.  Slowly people are acknowledging these horrific events as heinous and criminal.  However, we are a far cry from supporting the many women and children inflicted by sexual abuse.  There are still many in hiding living in fear, terror, and hopelessness.
It's time to raise awareness to these criminal acts that are occurring under our noses.  I strongly agree that family members, relatives, and friends whom do not report these odious crimes, and choose to turn away, should be held accountable as well.  All accomplices of other crimes are held accountable.  Why are the sexual crimes any different?
I have to say that I was naive enough to think that family would stick by my side in such…

Healing Worthlessness

When you feel worthless, looking in the mirror and reminding yourself that you are beautiful is not going to happen.  Being told that you are special, you have the light within you, and to appreciate your value in life is something that individuals with low self-worth cannot relate to.  Further, the more you say, the more they will resist; and, the more they will see you as untrustworthy and a phony.  Trying to mend the surface or the symptoms of worthlessness will not be lasting nor effective in people that have extreme low self-esteem.  Cognitive change is only partial change in attitude.  Setting up a plan on how to tackle your attitude of worthlessness on a daily basis is good; however, it doesn't support deep change, and it doesn't last.

During my darkest days, sometime ago in the past, I became the observer.  One day standing in the middle of my kitchen, I moved out of my body looking down over top of myself.  It was after I threw a pyrex dish in rage causing a huge hol…

Happiness is Created from an Empty Space

When you clear up your own messes and realize acceptance, you begin to see what it is that your heart truly longs for. Only then the universe, literally and spontaneously, unfolds accordingly... and in such miraculous ways to your true heart's desire.
Imagine a huge space inside of you. A place that you can begin anew. A blank slate where you can create something spectacular. Whether it be a bright and colorful rainbow, a warm sunshine, the mysterious moon, or a cool stream, it's your crayon to color your canvas as you choose. How ever that may look, it's really up to you. What's unique about this space is that it's yours to create as you choose.

This space is naturally within each and everyone of us. However, over a course of a lifetime of experiences, we start to collect things. We start to hold onto things that fill up this space of creation. As time passes, we get heavier and darker until the canvas is coated with an indescribable mish-mash of the …

Clean Up Your Messes to Receive This

“When you clear up your own messes and realize acceptance,  you begin to see what it is that your heart truly longs for.  Only then the universe, literally and spontaneously,  unfolds accordingly . . . and in such miraculous ways.”  ~Desiree Leigh~

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How to Receive Love and Joy

How to Receive Love and Joy
"Joy is a return to the deep harmony of body, mind, and spirit that was yours at birth and that can be yours again; that openness to love, that capacity for wholeness with the world around you, is still within you." [Deepak Chopra]
As Chopra stated, to receive love and joy go inward and recognize who you are - the deep orderly pleasing part. Because only there will you open up to experience true love and joy.
Clean up your messes, your emotional and mental baggage from the past; lift the veil or the stuff that holds you down so that you experience you.

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Remind Yourself of This Everyday

It's Up to Me
I get discouraged now and then When there are clouds of gray, Until I think about the things that happened yesterday. I do not mean the day before Or those of months ago, But all the yesterdays in which I had the chance to grow. I think of opportunities That I allowed to die, And those I took advantage of Before they passed me by. And I remember that the past  Presented quite a plight, But somehow I endured it and  The future seemed all right. And I remind myself that I Am capable and free, And my success and happiness Are really up to me.
[James J. Metcalfe]

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Stop Feeding Your Fears

To stop feeding your fears, you must first be able to face them.  Until the fear is looked at, the fear that holds you back will continue to live within you.  You may believe that you can hide the fear, sweep it under the rug, or shove it into a closet or basement somewhere never to be seen again.  In this case, you're only burying it temporarily.  The fear is still hiding and lurking within you.  Sooner or later it will resurface.  It will come back!

So stop feeding your fears.  Shine the light onto them.  Look at the fear head on, one by one.  Don't condemn or judge the fear.  If you do this, you are only reinforcing it.  Treat your fears with love, respect, and kindness because, in the end, they are you.  If you condemn and judge your fears, you condemn and judge yourself.  What happens when you condemn and judge yourself?  You become resistant, you lose respect for yourself, and you lower your confidence and your self-esteem.

Love your fear.  It's part of you.  You st…

Your Image Is Working For You or Against You

Your Image of Yourself Is Working For You or Against You
The image you have of yourself is making you or breaking you.  No matter what you're thinking or feeling, all that energy radiates outward into the world around you attracting back the likeness of those thoughts and feelings.  They ripple out either enhancing your life or detracting from it.

This message is not that simple or easily taken in, though, when it comes down to anyone that has lived through any traumatic events of any kind.  Memories are stored deep within dictating how you behave and what you attract.  Most often, you are not even conscious of it.  Children, teens, or adults enduring traumatic events place themselves mentally and emotionally somewhere else most often forgetting the events.  However, these memories don't disappear.  They are stored in the mind and body expressing themselves in post traumatic stress disorder, nightmares, flashbacks, startle responses, and dissociative behaviours.

So in the end, …

You Deserve Love and Affection

"You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe,  deserves your love and affection."
~Buddha
Please know that you deserve love and affection. You deserve time and space to heal. You deserve connection. No matter what you've gone through in your past or what you are going through in your present, you deserve love and affection like anybody else. 
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Giving Yourself Permission to Be You

Giving Yourself Permission to Be You
Many of us have a difficult time giving ourselves permission to be who we really are - to be ourselves.  We strive to be something we are not which is nothing close to who we really are.  But then, "do we really know who we are anyways?"  Because of the demands of the world and the loyalty, honor, or roles we need to attain and play with which may include our family, spouse, friends, children, boss, clergy, teachers, politicians, community, and organizations, we feel we 'should' be something that we really are not.  Sometimes we're not even aware of this 'should be.'

There's a sense of subtlety when it comes to knowing who we really are, and giving ourselves permission to be just that.  That feeling of who we really are can be elusive and hard to detect.  We have it, we get it, we understand it, but we really don't.  It lives somewhere beyond us, almost unreachable, this thing called me.  Who are we really givi…

No Matter How Dark It Seems

No Matter How Dark It Seems
"No matter how dark it seems When cloudy skies block hopes and dreams When you stumble, fall, and can't get back up Wheels keep spinning but you're stuck We reach out to you with tender care On a healing journey we will share With words of hope and a better way To walk in the light of each New Day."

[Krystal Kuehn]

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Love Is Like a Beautiful Flower

"Love is like a beautiful flower which I may not touch,  but whose fragrance makes the garden  a place of delight just the same."
~Helen Keller

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Today Is All We Have

I haven't felt well for the last couple of days.  My lymph nodes swollen and tender, cold like symptoms, neck hurts, head hurts, nausea bouts, fatigue, it's an odd feeling.  These symptoms come and go regularly becoming more consistent as the months go by.  They have been for the past two years now, early 2009.  I can't seem to pinpoint what it is, if anything.  It's difficult not to worry about it when it's in your face, then I visualize my health and the healing of whatever this is with fire, knowing that I can do something about it.

Today, I struggled to get out of bed, though.  I didn't want to deal with these symptoms anymore.  They hurt!  I was ready to stomp down the hall to dig in the bathroom cabinet to get some pain killers.  The physical pain of these symptoms are getting stronger.  I sat at the edge of the bed, my shoulders hunched over, head hanging down, sad, wondering how I can heal myself.  I flopped my head back down onto the pill…

Gain Strength and Courage and Confidence

We gain strength, and courage, and confidence  by each experience in which we really stop 
to look fear in the face...  we must do that which we think we cannot.
~Eleanor Roosevelt


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3 Things that are Fundamental to Human Fulfillment

3 Things That are Fundamental to Human Fulfillment
There are certain things that are fundamental to human fulfillment.  The essence of these needs is captured in the phrase 'to live, to learn, to leave a legacy.'

The need to live is our physical need for such things as food, clothing, shelter, economical well-being, and health.  The need to love is our social need to relate to other people, to belong, to love, and to be loved.  The need to learn is our mental need to develop, and to grow.  And, the need to leave a legacy is our spiritual need to have a sense of meaning, purpose, personal congruence, and contribution. [Stephen R. Covey].
Is this true for you?

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Gain a New Perspective to Create New Opportunities

"The real voyage of discovery consists
not in seeking new landscapes,
but in having new eyes."

[Marcel Proust]

Gaining a new objective perspective creates an open mind to new opportunities. Try on something new today: a new outfit, a new way to put on eye shadow, a new recipe, a book from a different genre . . . get out of the mundane, try on something new, and have the intention to see the experience in a new way. You never know what new opportunities will come your way.
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Living With Positive Intentions

Living With Positive Intentions
The pleasure's of avoidance and denial, and the pain's of responsibility. Many of us look at life this way. What do you think of the word 'responsibility'? Does it freak you out? Does it give you a heaviness in your chest? Does it make you feel old? I'll bet it's pretty painful even thinking about the word 'responsibility,' let alone doing 'responsibility.' "OMG, that's work!" We all have different emotions attached to the word 'responsibility'. What are yours?

It's easy to avoid, deny and ignore responsibility. Choosing to be unconscious to life gives you pleasure to some degree. Otherwise why would you do it? You want to avoid the pain. That's why. We can put on our positive thinking caps and motor down the road, side-swiping everything in our way, protesting loudly as we screech down the way, "I'm happy!" "I'm positive!" "I've go…