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Flowers Are the Music of the Ground

How Does the Process of Letting Go Work?

Letting Go
One of the hardest lessons in life is letting go. Whether it's guilt, anger, love, loss or betrayal. Change is never easy. We fight to hold on and we fight to let go.
Many frivolously and light-heatedly use the words "letting go."  They may say that in order to move forward, you must let go; to have freedom, you must let go; to stop living in the past, you must let go; and to stop destroying your self, you must let go.  But, what exactly does letting go mean, and is this concept as 'simple' as many say as the words roll off their tongues?
A couple of decade ago, I started trying to figure this out--the concept of letting go. I spent thousands of dollars in self-improvement workshops, seminars, lectures, online educational classes, and books trying to understand what others meant when they said, "Just let go."  And, because there was no clear explanation, I kept asking, "How?"  How do you "just" let go when memories and feeli…

The Pursuit of Mastery

If people knew how hard I worked to get my mastery, it wouldn't seem so wonderful at all. [Michelangelo]
I finished reading a book called "Drive" by Daniel H. Pink.  I gave it a three to a three and a half star out of five because it could have been more concise.  I found myself scanning quickly over many areas. I guess it felt a bit redundant in certain areas.  I did find Pink's chapter on "Mastery," however, to be enlightening and something that many people should consider if they want to be a master at what they love. 
He mentions in the book that mastery has three laws.  1. Mastery is a Mindset. 2. Mastery is a Pain. 3. Mastery is an Asymptote.  Let me explain numbers 1 and 3 briefly first.
Number 1: Mastery is a Mindset which means that the pursuit of mastery is all in our heads.  Some people, for instance, believe that to be a master at something, such as a painter or sculptor, you need intelligence, and intelligence has a restricted supply that we canno…

Get Political for A Cause You Are Passionate About

Wake Up and Get Political For A Cause You Are Passionate About
Why is the general population so afraid to get involved politically?  Are you afraid of backlash?  Are you afraid that maybe someone won't agree with you, and their comments are going to rock your boat?  Are you afraid of this so called "negativity" people talk about?  Or are you one of those believers that thinks that if I only stay in the Zen moment and think happy thoughts, then life will somehow miraculously change for the better?

We latch on to religion or spirituality when we are overwhelmed; when we can't seem to tolerate the world anymore.  Perhaps, someone close to you died--a spouse, a child, a mother, or a very good friend.  War is another factor to why people latch onto religion or look for a divine power.  People want to know and want to believe that there is something out there that is greater than the mess here on earth, and, honestly, rightfully so.  I went through this myself.

But spiritu…

A Survivors Sacred Domain Filled With Love

When you  have been abused, it's not that you don't ever want to be loved by someone.  It's that your demands may be a lot greater than most.  Because of the extra demands, many turn and walk away.  They can't be bothered, I suppose.  But isn't truelove worththe effort?

In essence, to love another that has been so deeply and soulfully hurt, it takes more effort on the part of the other trying to enter a sacred domain; perhaps you can call it a wall, but it really is a sacred domain filled with love. Once you enter the sacred domain or when you finally see that there is a whole lot of love within those walls, you climb in there, too, and find out it is truly miraculous.

If you've been allowed to enter the sacred domain, more than likely and perhaps without even knowing it, you've given greater space, time, patience, tolerance, and unconditional love.



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Subtly Supporting Evil In Various Ways

"If I know that something evil is happening I do not do anything to favor it, but I do not do anything to stop it; I look away from it.  Thus, I am passively guilty of supporting the man who perpetuates that evil."
--Gerard Prunier, author of The Rwanda Crisis





Evil by an individual, a group, a state, or a nation(s); it comes in all sizes and by people that you would not suspect.



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Happy Easter

Whether you celebrate the crucifixion and resurrection of Jesus, or you celebrate Ishtar, fertility and procreation, take these holidays to give thanks to life, what life has to offer, and any memories of loved ones that impacted your heart, whether you are religious or not.  

I always look back to memories of my grandparents on my father's side, especially my grandma.  Going to my grandparents home in Raspberry Village was always such a nice event.  Grandma had such good home-cooked food.  She made an amazing raspberry juice, borscht that was out of this world, and pedehi (my favorite was beet or pumpkin).  It was such a delight!  Her home was very welcoming and warm and smelled so inviting.  I'll always remember entering the side door of the house, turning left to climb up the stairs to enter her kitchen.  Every time, she had a loaf of bread, a container of salt, and a clear glass jug full of fresh water.

What I remember most of grandma's place was that she was consis…

Is Your Mind Full or Are You Mindful?

Is your mind full of life's stuff as the human on the left of the picture, or are you being mindful of what enters your mind as the dogs illustration is on the right?

Don't be hard on yourself when you are on the left side of this picture.  Life is most often a juggling or balancing act: we go from having a full mind to being mindful.  I guess the most important task is to be mindful that your mind is full and then you can take action and do something about it.  In the end, you need to continually check in, reflect on your thoughts, to see where you are at.

To help promote mindfulness, you also need to nourish yourself regularly.

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Can One Person Make Change?

There are way to many people that say that we can't change things; that the matter is too big and either out of our hands or out of our control to see any movement from one person.  I totally disagree with this attitude.  

For the naysayers, it's time to start looking at how change happens.  Change doesn't happen by people sitting back and doing nothing or living separate lives from the world around them.  Change happens by getting up and creating a voice about what is important to you and the people around you.

I hear people say: "Don't fuss, it's not worth the energy;" "Why make a big deal out of it.  Life has always been like this;" "Don't worry about something you cannot change;" but this way of thinking is misleading and false.  First, can you imagine if we all thought this way?  No change would happened.  Besides, why are we leaving the change for someone else?  Second, this is exactly how the big guys wants you to think--d…

Emotional Abuse: What Are the Signs?

Do you recognize the signs of emotional abuse?  You may experience these signs if you are living with someone that physically and verbally abuses you?  You may also experience these signs with others you don't live with, such as brothers or sisters and friends or neighbors.  I wasn't able to recognize the signs immediately.  I was too caught up managing life with my children not considering either my own issues or needs.  I was trying to keep things afloat so that life looked grand from the outside--from the perspective of others--and life did look just fine from the outside; so it was very easy to convince myself that everything was okay.  What's really crazy, though, is that even if outsiders suspected something, they didn't say a word or do anything; everyone lived in this bubble of silence.  This bubble of silence is the craziest thing in the world when you reflect on it, but it happens with child abuse, too!  No one wants to get involved.

These are just five sign…

Controller, Abusers, & Manipulators

In life, we live among a varied population, so we must be able to recognize when we are in danger.  When you have grown up observing domestic violence, have been the subject of childhood abuse or bullying from your siblings, or have been assaulted in any way, we can either be hypervigilant or on-guard to everyone that is around us or we may be unconscious in recognizing the signs of these characteristics.  I know I have been both, but my underlying characteristic is to be hypervigilant and acutely aware of absolutely everything--every facial expression and every pin dropping.  What's important, though, is to recognize the signs by logically analyzing the situation and also staying connected to your gut feelings.

Remember, many abusers, controllers, and manipulators will make the problem yours and tell everyone in their circle of family and friends (and acquaintances) that 'you' are the problem when in fact you are not.  I can compare this behavior to children in a playgr…

Healers Are Warrior Who've Defeated the Darkness

Healers are warriors, whether they are spiritual or not, who have found the courage to defeat the darkness buried within their souls or within the very structure and function of their DNA.  
We awaken with wisdom and a new-found strength to encourage and inspire others to rise above their own darkness--like the lotus flower being released from the mud at the bottom of the pond;  first, with awareness, and, second, with action.
by Desiree Leigh Thompson
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Betrayed By the People We Love and Trust

Feeling betrayed by the people that we love and trust who did not respond to our cries of abuse is a feeling that may never really go away.  It is something that we need to work on on a regular basis to keep the memories and feelings in check.

Many people talk about forgiveness (even I did sometime in the past), stating how important it is to do in order to move on.  Through some real deep self-examination, I realized I was only following a socially conditioned belief.  What is forgiveness, anyways?  Basically, it is an abstract concept.  We made it up.  And, because it is a concept to understand a generalized idea, we can attach anything to it to fit our needs if we choose.

Many people are socially conditioned to believe that we "must" forgive.  Forgiveness has been a huge hype socialized into us for centuries; a way for society to conform, but also a way for society to behave themselves rather than cause a ruckus.  It is a way to silence society.  Even celebrities and gur…

Don't Sugar Coat Your Truth

Speak your truth, no matter what.  Your truth may not resonate with everyone.  Many of us may even shut down if our truth isn't accepted or acknowledged by others; perhaps, because they feel uncomfortable in the presence of truth.  Do it anyways.

Courage is needed to come forward regarding our truth; don't sugar-coat it.  Sugar-coating the truth only alleviates the other party from their responsibilities.

Everyone that has thus far come forward has had to go through feelings of ambiguity-should I say something or should I stay silent.  Do it anyways; speak your truth despite their uncomfortableness.  

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Should Science Be Regulated?

Fukuyama states that “countries must regulate…technology… [to]…discriminate between… technolog[y]…that “promote[s] human flourishing, and those that pose a threat to human dignity and well-being” (460).  Our nation “failed to understand that a…new potential for destruction had been created” with the atomic bomb (459); we decimated thousands of human lives in Hiroshima and Nagasaki. Thus, careful deliberation and scrutiny must occur in the process of scientific regulation.  However, conflicting conceptions in various research projects such as in vetro fertilization, stem cell research, and eugenics makes for challenging legislation.
Louise Brown, in 1978, was the first child born from in vetro fertilization (IVF)—in which multiple fertilized embryos are transferred from a petri dish into a woman’s uterus.A procedure that was experimental, but gave hope to couples that could not conceive a child (Rosenberg).The transferring of multiple embryos into a woman’s uterus, however, raised quest…