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How Trauma Is Linked to Shame and Disgust

A History of Trauma I've been in the process of healing for many years trying to understand why I do the things I do and why I behave a certain way. I did not have an upbringing of simply getting a slap or a spank here and there; or reprimanded because I came home passed my curfew; or had a parent that was a harsh disciplinary.  I was chronically sexually, emotionally, and mentally abused since I was a small child. After growing up with chronic incest and chronic abuse from family members, I was also sexually assaulted  twice, had several experiences of sexual harassment, was physically assaulted by my father and siblings as a teen, and then went into one relationship of domestic violence. Professionals Just Catching Up Trauma was my life. So, when I began the healing process, I looked at spirituality to guide me, but far too often the terms "let go" and "forgive" were constantly repeated as though it was an easy task. Sure, letting go can be pretty straight f…

Why You Should Understand Your Beliefs

The AHA Moment About Beliefs I had an aha moment many years ago. I was quite young - about 20 years old. I had that young lady attitude, too: everything I stood for was right. I thought to myself, "I wasn't a teenager anymore," so I kind of believed I knew it all. Oh boy, was I wrong.

I was at a party, and this party was quite different from other parties. It was intellectual. We were discussing important things in life like existentialism and other philosophical perspectives. At that time in my life, I had a lot of perspectives, opinions, and beliefs that I stood grounded in, but had no real reasoning for them.

Towards the end of the party, I recall being quite adamant about a topic while having a conversation with someone, probably in their late twenties and someone that had achieved an undergraduate degree. At the end of the conversation, I thought this man was arrogant and obtuse, although I couldn't deny that he was definitely polite.

Whatever we were discussing…

The Importance of Self-Care as Women

Just a reminder to let you know how frigging amazing you are and don't you forget that, because us over-givers tend to do that - forget that we are amazing and we do amazing things.

Most women are nurturers and caregivers by nature. We love to give. We support and encourage. We love to make others happy. Yet, sometimes, many times, we over-give to the point of exhaustion or resentment. We sacrifice our own happiness and even our health and well-being without even realizing it; sometimes until we are laid up in bed or hindered by a chronic illness.

On the flip-side, as nurturers, we have a unique ability to make the world a better place for everyone to live. We empathize and inspire.We understand. We are intuitive by nature. Nevertheless, there are times when we need to schedule time-outs to do some self-careand nurture ourselves.

Foster self-care. Give yourself the energy you need to continue to be a strong, healthy, vibrant, nurturer, connector, teacher, warrior, lover, and/or a lea…