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Why Is Self-Correction Important to Self-Love?

Learning to love oneself takes self-correction.  Whenever we think of self-love, we think about doing things like,  prioritizing oneself being true to oneself being nice to oneself setting boundaries  forgiving oneself saying "no" taking a nap  taking a walk  breathing deeply sitting in stillness eating nutritiously emotional regulation making a gratitude list connecting with friends communicating honestly with others These acts of self-care are all part of growing ones self-love. Engaging in routine self-care has been clinically proven to assist in reducing depression, anxiety, stress, frustration, and anger while increasing happiness and energy and leading to better relationships. When one is in this state of taking care of ones own needs, one is, for example, more appreciative of life. One is taking responsibility for their own health and wellbeing which promotes more self-love.  But how do we take action when we are busy with our family and work, or caught up in ruminatin

Beneath the Appearance of Capitalism

Beneath the Appearance of Capitalism

"Competitive capitalism, allied with a culturally sanctioned acquisitiveness and driven by calculated pursuit of profit, is only at surface a rational form of society.  Beneath the appearance of dispassionate practicality is a deep and suppressed conflict between the mechanical regulation of daily life on the one hand, and human imagination, creativity, and emotion on the other" (Parkinson & Drislane, 2011, p. 129).

How, then, can capitalism provide for a peaceful, stable, and ordered social life offering a rich social life of shared values and activities?  Is it even possible?

Capitalist societies are one's of individualism, self-reliance, self-service, individual freedom, and achievement for one's own personal goals.  Now this may sound great to some, and I can understand that, too.  However, capitalism seems to have also created a world of alienation, disconnect, and depersonalization, a world that lacks social values and bonds, mutual obligation, family, and community.  A life without these things can seem meaningless, less fulfilling, and even self-destructive.  Emile Durkheim, a sociologist, stated that there was a definite link between the rate in suicides and the surrounding society.  He expressed that "individuals were far less likely to commit suicide where the surrounding society upheld strong traditional norms and values . . . [and] where they were strongly integrated into family, group and community" (Parkinson & Drisdale, 2011, p. 133).

Community, social bonds, social values, and social norms create connection and social solidarity. They give individuals guidance and direction. They give a sense of belonging and responsibility to a mutual group that has mutual goals.  Strength and meaning is found through community, culture, and traditions, all of which are rewarding and internally rich.

By studying various statistics in psychology and sociology, you would be amazed to see the spike in mood disorders such as depression and anxiety.  Why?  Disconnection, perhaps.  Are all of our personalized self-serving goals actually giving us mental and emotional health issues?  We become so self-absorbed in what we are doing, making every human transaction a potential profit or a self-serving need, that we forget to sincerely connect with others.  I strongly believe that good physical health begins with good mental and emotional health.  Here is a couple of example: I was suffering with intense IBS for about 3 weeks this past month.  It was awful!   The moment I left my office for a couple of days leaving work and studies behind, and connecting with my family: my sons and the in-laws, miraculously, the IBS disappeared.  Another was when I was feeling stressed, fatigued, and in pain.  I was exhausted from exams and continued studies.  I watched a comedy show with a friend for about an hour.  The show was hilarious (I wish I could remember what it was).  Anyways, together we laughed our socks off .  Miraculously, once again, my energy and spirits were lifted.  Coincidence or getting connected?

In the end, whatever the dominant economy is, today it is capitalism, social solidarity and togetherness - feeling really connected with others - is important and vital to your mental, emotional, and physical health.  Be well, and make choices to connect with others that are healthy for you.

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  1. Great post! Yes, living in an individualistic society can cause us to be disconnected from family, friends, and sometimes from the things that once make us happy. Making a conscious decision to be connected with family and friends and making time for self-care can enhance our well-being.

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  2. I very much appreciate the positivism and health-full-ness of your posts. Peace and all good things for you in work and in life.

    Sincerely,
    Diane

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