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Are You the Author of Your Life

"I am the author of my life. Unfortunately, I'm writing in pen and I cannot erase my mistakes."
[Bill Kaulitz]

When was it the first time you realized that you were actually the author of your life? I was so caught up in simply surviving life that I paid no attention to what I wanted. I had no goals, no dreams, no ambitions . . . nothing. I was only surviving; trying to find a way to live through and then, later, escape my circumstances.  

I lived under the clouds of dysfunction. My father was an alcoholic who abused my mother. Both parents weren't around emotionally. There was also sexual abuse when I was a child and then in my adolescents two sexual assaults. Dreams. Goals. Aspirations. What were they?

It was only when I met my first husband that I started to see that I could dream and create my reality. Although our relationship didn't work out, he taught me a lot about going after my dreams. After that, I fall into two dysfunctional relationships, and serving them became my reality.  

Jump forward another 30 years, now I truly realize we are authors to our own lives. Perhaps because I know my time is limited. Perhaps because I'm fed up with what's occurred in my life. Whatever it is, I know for certain that the more I think about something and the more I speak about something, the more I know that the creation or manifestation of it will be just around the corner.

So, take it from me, think, say, and write what you want. Forget about the rest. If you can't do this, find a way to heal your pain, your past, or whatever it is, and move forward because otherwise, it will repeat itself.

You are the author to your life. You will continue to make plenty of mistakes, but continue moving forward.

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