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Self-Reevaluation and Your Essential Values

Self-Reevaluation and Your Essential Values
by Desiree Leigh, Wake Up to Live

Many of us don't think before we act. We don't take stock at why we act out in sheer habit. We are too busy to reflect and, rather, we respond reflexively. We act automatically.

  • Most problem behaviors happen because we are trying to achieve relaxation and assertion.
  • Most cravings, such as alcohol, food and drink, are usually from boredom, anxiety and your current social situation.
  • Habitual habits, over time, can become unconscious and spontaneous - eating, drinking, smoking, getting angry, scared and depressed without even knowing why you're doing what you are doing.
Take the time to stop and look at what is going on. Reflect to create awareness. Find the reasons for your immediate behavior. What benefits are you getting? What is it costing you?

See yourself 10, 20 or 30 years in the future. Continuing the habit, what are you doing? Who are you with? How is your health? Really picture what is possible with a behavior that does not serve you.

Now imagine how you would think and feel about yourself if you did change. What does it look like? Who are you being? What are you doing?

Self-reevaluation is about taking stock emotionally and cognitively. Self-reevaluation will reveal that your essential values are in conflict with your problem behaviors. Try it. What do you have to lose?


  1. Hi Desiree,
    Love the blog and resonate with all you do.

    I work with families through the Family Guidance System which helps them navigate through the chaos of day to day life. I teach them "in the moment" tools and strategies to help them tune into their body, mind and emotions and enable them to listen to the voice of inner wisdom and intuition that is shut out by the chaos of day to day life.
    I would love to connect to see if there are any synergies between our businesses

  2. Great Post.
    Well written and valuable content will always attract.
    Many thanks
    Walt Bayliss
    CEO and Founder


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