The Way People Treat You

The way people treat you is a statement about who they are as a human being. It is not a statement about you. You are worthy and deserving.

It took me some time to figure this out, but I wrote about it in my book Healing Worthlessness: Coming Into Self-Love as a Trauma Survivor published in 2020. Forever, I thought it was about me. I was so broken down by growing up in a dysfunctional family filled with mental, emotional, and sexual abuse, and, then later in my teens, I was sexually assaulted twice. After that, I ended up being in a relationship that was violent. I kept thinking that I was the problem. That followed me forever!

Until my son started talking to be about what he was seeing and then telling me that other families weren't like ours, only then did I begin to realize that my way of thinking was completely distorted and I needed to correct it. 

Correcting my way of thinking wasn't easy. I had so much turmoil and chaos inside of me that I had to work through, but, eventually, healing occurred when I made the decision to go on that journey. 

Whatever you may be facing, remember that when someone treats you badly, it doesn't mean that it has anything to do with you. When someone overreacts or reacts in an abusive manner, it is about them and whatever problems they haven't worked out on their own. 

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