I battled depression as far back as I can remember. I grew up with a mom that had depression (she lived with a man that assaulted and abused her weekly), so it was easy to learn the habits of depression; however, it wasn't that clear-cut and simple. I also suffered a life of childhood abuse, sexual assault, and domestic violence with mental abuse. I believe that when you are vulnerable, as I was with depression and a history of violence, you can fall into relationships that are abusive without recognizing (or ignoring) the signs. Looking at all of this, I can understand why it was a daily struggle to stay above water. I used to tell my adult children that I was underwater, and yet I was still breathing.
I don't think anyone that hasn't suffered with this mental illness can really relate to or understand what we have gone through or what we struggle with; perhaps, unless you have had a family member or a friend that suffered with it. I heard so many comments such as the old proverbial chin-up, but to solve mental health issues it's not that simple and to say such a thing to someone that is suffering with depression is just wrong; it's wrong because of the lack of education others have regarding the complexities about depression. Each and every one of us has a different genetic make-up and different environmental factors; as a result, there is no one-fits-all solution.