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Who Do You Trust To Be Your Mentor?



I follow several people on social media, but when it's time to make a decision to jump into one of their programs (e.g., mentorship . . .), I go with the one that has shown consistency in their behavior (trust) - behavior traits that I'm looking for anyway.

Logical Decision Making

I like to observe, listen, and ask questions from a distance before I jump in and enroll myself into a program because there are so many online. I spent thousand upon thousand of dollars within the past couple of decades; some being worthy of the cost and others not so much. Many get it right with their advertising, promotions, and marketing, but many also don't produce the results!

I check to see how these individuals respond to others, if they respond, if they are the leader of the teams they hold, if they participate (e.g., speak, coach) in their programs, if they are authentic, etc.  Honestly, it takes me a long time to trust others. It is from their actions that I learn to trust them or not, though. It is not by their words alone.

To deviate a bit, I recently filled out the DISC assessment with another mentorship program I belong to. I fill out many of these assessments to gain insight about myself. It is not that I don't know who I am from a business or professional standpoint, but, somehow, these assessments define the traits and characteristics so eloquently and with so much more description. In the assessment, trust was explained: I tend not to extent trust until it has been earned, and I can say without a doubt that this is true for me.

Going In the Wrong Direction

In any event, I've been watching Grant Cardone for a few years while I was in my undergraduate studies and now in my graduate studies. The first book I purchased was The Millionaire Book and then The 10X Rule came second. I was in my third year of undergraduate studies when I realized that nursing wasn't for me (that would take a book to explain), but I was still stuck in my old rigid beliefs -  since I started the program and was already two years into it, and I left my home town to study, I said to myself, "I'd better just stick it out." It's called the "sunk cost fallacy" as my son identified. 

Anyway, the audio was amazing. I needed something to help me figure out where I was going in life, and I had to think big since I was already in my 50's. Grant was to the point, honest, sincere, authentic, and genuine, and he just made sense; everything that I love about a person. The audio was not only motivational (we know motivation never lasts); it made sense: you put in more effort, you get more results! Grant had great energy, was wholesomely honest about how to get from point A to point B (and be absolutely realistic about it without fluffing it up), and, in the meanwhile, talked about the psychology of the human behavior (whether he knew he was doing it or not) which I absolutely loved. I really believe that individuals that have experienced hardships as young kids and that were able to find their way by surpassing their hurt, pain, and the mental charge and chaos, are exceptional beings. He's one of them. His story touched me.

Building Trust

He may be off the wall. He may get a little crude. He may present himself as a man's man. Yet, I relate. He has his highs and he has his lows. He's intense, yet he's gentle. He throws off some arrogance and interrupts on occasion, but he also shows great humility. He embodies diverse characteristics and seems to show them with ease. But when push comes to shove, he is sincere and really cares. While the world instills fear, he instills a strategy - a plan to feel safe. He doesn't promote fear to sell his products and services. He knows they are worth it to keep us focused on what's important. And, that is what has built my trust in him. Observation of human behavior over several years can tell you a lot! You could never understand this if you watched a couple of his videos or read a couple of his posts and determined who he was at that point. You wouldn't be able to "get" him or anyone else for that matter. 

Someone To Believe In You

Grant Cardone believes in our potential. He believes in it so much that he never gives up. Another quality that I love about him. When I was a kid, I didn't have anyone that believed in me. I tried to show that I didn't care (with an attitude), but I really did care. I needed, I longed for, someone to believe in me. 

I believe we all know we are built for more. Most of us fear stepping up and into that potential due to the consequences that come with it like the dealing with the haters and the criticizers or the loss of friendships and even family members. We may also not step into it because we lack the support. Keep seeking your support system. They're out there somewhere. When you finally find the right people that support you and truly want you to succeed, that is when you really found a family that cares. The 10X Family!

Who Do You Trust to Be Your Mentor?

Who do you trust to be your mentor - for your business, career, or relationships? They may not be your typical academia business book ideal, but that's not what or who you should be looking for. Look for the one that is credible and authentic in your eyes.

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