Healing Takes Deep Soulful Work to Uncover True Happiness
There are so many wonderful shares on the social media networks. It's great to see various positive quotes about healing to support our community, family, friends, or neighbors. Reminding others to be optimistic and positive can raise them from a place of despair to, at least, a glimpse of light or hope; and, that is a good thing! Frankly speaking, though, this is not a form of deep healing to uncover true happiness for the deeply hurt.
After a
while, you get this bottleneck of meaningful messages that lose their potency. For
sure, positive psychology has its place.
I am a supporter of this field.
Nonetheless, let us consider the individuals that have suffered deeply
and need more intense healing. What I
see happening is that this field is creating various personas filled with masked
hurts, anger, pain, and deep despair. Is the positive thinking holding these
individuals back from really healing what is harboring deep inside?
There is a
huge wave going on in this world today making it almost impossible not to
believe anything different. When we get
caught up in these social waves, we lose our critical thinking cap. The mentality is, because everyone else is
doing it, it must be right. Is positive
psychology just another wave to conform to a way of living that others keep
promoting but, in the end, the results are still the same? Meaning, there is no deep internal change
because of the avoidance to the source of the problem.
According to
the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH), approx. 1 in 4 Americans are
diagnosed each year with low self-esteem (lack of self-worth) as an underlying
issue. Consumption of antidepressants is
soaring not declining. The Center for
Disease Control and Prevention states that there has been an increase of 400%
in antidepressant prescriptions in the last two decades. Is this wave of positive psychology really
working? Thinking
positively works wonders especially after the deep hurts have been resolved. Nevertheless, let us not forget about the many
victims of odious crimes that cannot quickly turn on the positive attitude. So then, how do we uncover true happiness for
the deeply hurt?
First, metaphorically
speaking let me give an example about what happens to the congestion of
messes that never get resolved or cleaned up. A cow Pasteur has many piles of
dung (unresolved issues). You tip toe around the piles to get where you need to
go (avoidance). You are always on guard and anxious because you are never sure
if you're going to step in a pile of mess and make a bigger mess (fear that words,
thoughts, and emotions may arise and you won’t know what to do with them). Sooner or later, you would think that the
best thing to do is to take a shovel and begin cleaning this mess up
(confronting your pain). For many,
though, this may seem like too much work, so, instead, you throw sweet smelling
flowers (positive thinking) on the dung and continue to ignore it. In the end,
though, the dung is still covering much of the Pasteur, and, its presence still
smells bad (negative thoughts not resolved are still harbouring within your
mind and body causing physical, mental, and emotional discomfort). To add, the
pile up (congestion) starts to get onto other things that pass through the
Pasteur (other relationships). As a result, you become hypersensitive
(reactive) to every situation because you have to be extremely cautious to
where you walk and how you place yourself (and what you say). You have to make sure you keep balance; otherwise,
if you fall down, it will be a disaster (life will fall apart as you know it).
For this
reason, placing a blanket of positive thinking will not change a thing, internally;
thus, this reflects externally. In the end, the heavy dark pit in the bowels of
your belly will remain. Here is a Sufi
Parable that is so fitting in this moment.
An old man was walking home late one
night when he saw a friend on his knees under a street light, searching for
something.
"What are you doing?" he
asked his friend.
"I dropped the key to my
house."
"I'll help you look."
After a few minutes of frustrated
searching, the old man asked,
"Where exactly were you when you
dropped this key?"
His friend
pointed toward the darkness, "Over there."
"Then
why are you looking for it here?"
"Because
this is where the light is."
To conclude,
healing takes deep soulful work. By
clearing up the mess at its source, you uncover true happiness. A huge hollow empty space becomes you. The lotus flower rises to the surface and you
gain crystal clarity. You finally begin
to see your own beauty.
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