Things you can do to build strength from within.
1. Reach out to friends, neighbors, motivational seminars, and self-help type lectures (without disclosing anything to anyone because you might not be ready to do this) or reaching out 'and' asking for support and guidance.
2. Call a counsellor or therapist for yourself. Interview a few before you make a commitment. My psychotherapist, a few years back, stated quite clearly to me that there are good counsellors and there are bad one's. I,too, have come across some pretty shady one's that would more likely hurt than help. Don't give up. Even in the worst conditions, it is possible to keep an outlook that things can and will change.
3. Do you know a lawyer or a friend that knows a lawyer? Get some legal advice. I can tell you that there are good lawyers and bad lawyers. For some reason, I came across the bad one's giving outrageous advice! Be cautious and be courageous. Just because these lawyers have a degree, it doesn't mean they all have your well-being in mind and give you the best advice. They all grew up with their own issues.
4. If there is a drug or alcohol abuse issue involved in the relationship, who needs the support? This, for sure, needs to be addressed immediately for anything to change!
5. Keep at it. Walk, meditate, journal, read great books-just don't take them as absolute, or pray, for example. Do what you need to do in those moments.
Remember, too, that sometimes within that relationship things change. Amazing things are possible!